I have the fear.

I fear my new forum will be a total failure and I will look like an idiot. Never mind that what I earned yesterday is more than it earns in a month. This is personal. It makes a difference.

I fear that people will stop coming to this blog. Even though I never thought they would to start with. But now they do. This is personal.

I fear that I will be exposed as nothing more than some Dude who now and then writes something that may or may not be useful. This is true as well, which makes it worse.

I fear death by a wasp.

I fear that my earnings will plummet and I will have to start over again.

I fear Google and their algorithms.

I fear that my new projects will never work out.

I fear Build My Rank will close tomorrow.

I fear that all the work I put in to the Pond to get it going will be for nothing and those that said they would sign-up won’t. Which is pretty much the case so far.

But then I think

F**K IT.

Who really cares.

It’s just an insignificant part of the Internet that a few peeps come to now and then.

If it all goes pear shaped at least I gave it a go.

At least I tried something different.

At least I have made enough money to transform my life for ever whatever happens. Through hard work, an attempt to get away from poverty and faith that if I made a dollar online I could make 2.

At least I didn’t stop working and stay happy with a grand or two a month.

At least I gave it my all.

Mostly I fear that I may never have fear and I would never do anything that made me uncomfortable.

What makes you get the FEAR? Is it stopping you from trying new things?

Or is it just me?

Or do you have too much fear to leave a comment? It is hard making yourself known to your peers, it just feels so damn personal.

71 Responses to “Fear”

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  1. Andy says:

    I fear I will sign up to the forum, read lots of valuable stuff, and then do nothing with it. Just like I have in the past.
    I fear squirrels, too.

  2. Andy says:

    Okay, I must be just stupid. I am paid up through Paypal, but when I hit the “register” button it kicks me back to the sign up page…

    • Dave says:

      Wifey is setting up the accounts after people pays their monies. That register link was modded by Billy so no spammers can register and I get to convince them to go straight 😉

      You will be in there soon Dude.

      • Andy says:

        See you on the inside….that’s what all the good MMO sales pages say. Thanks to you guys, I don’t bite anymore.

        As a matter of fact, if I don’t make a penny with what I get out of the forum, you’ve saved me hundreds just by getting me out of the “buy the latest MMO trick to make easy millions!” rat race.
        Thanks for everything, Dave and Wifey.

  3. Dieter says:

    Fear sucks, but it can be a formidable motivator.

  4. Steph says:

    My fear – spending time building a site that Google hates. But it’s already happened, and will likely happen again – but the successes are there too in spite of the failures. So that gives me some reason to conquer that fear.

  5. MrMatts says:

    I fear that I will run out of coffee.

  6. Randall says:

    I really hope all the work you put into the pond forum doesn’t get wasted. It’s the real deal even better than I thought it would be. I wouldn’t mind paying extra so that you can get to the $1000 dollar mark per month. It does require a lot of work and your time. Hopefully more peeps will join. Thanks, Dave.

    • Dave says:


      Thanks Dude, that is a very kind offer but I won’t be taking your money. I don’t mind doing it as a number of you said you wanted it. It is just the very odd sensation of setting something up in public where you guys know I am doing it. Weird really but just being honest.

  7. The IM Koala says:

    I’m not sure how you can fear that your forum will be a failure. It’s already rockin! People who said they would sign up and then wussed out are the ones who should be having the fear right now. They’re missing out on all the good info, and they’ll be left in the dust!

    • Dave says:

      IM Koala,

      Thanks for that. It’s odd really as I just asked then set it up. It’s not like I will curl up in a ball or anything, I think part of it was the fact that it took me longer to figure out setting it up than I thought so in my mind it is a bigger deal if it doesn’t work out.

      But that’s life, and glad you are enjoying it, I know I am too. There has been some great info in there already.

  8. daveh says:

    “Fear is the mindkiller”

    F*ck fear. The pond kicks ass – word will get around and it will kick even more ass.

  9. Bruno says:

    My only fear is one day losing the absolute faith in myself that I can achieve anything I want if I set my mind on it.

    That’s my only real fear. If I have that, I know that I can take care of all the rest.

    And for people who haven’t signed up to the forum, the Koala got it: they are missing big time.

    In just under 48 hours I have:

    – learned about a cool suggestion tool that I didn’t know about;
    – found out top-notch FREE graphics tools which I didn’t know about;
    – learned how to create a membership site;
    – learned how to build a GOOD simple static website;
    – learned how to avoid the Google dance the right way;

    and the best of all,

    – I got TWO EXCELLENT, BRANDABLE, year 2000 AGED domains for … FREE! That’s right! For free. There was this guy who mentioned in the forum that he had some domains to spare, I said I was interested, he said ‘Alright!’ and as I’m writing this, I’m setting up two great, brandable aged domains on my niche that I got for free just because I joined the pond.

    Now, don’t you think that was worth the bloody $10 that you have to pay to a FRIEND?

    “Ahh, but you were lucky to see that guy’s offer … He probably doesn’t have any more domains like that at the moment …”

    Yeah … You muppet!! First, you are missing the point. Second, stop making excuses, invest some good money in your business and the the very same thing might happen to you! As one of the best quotes I’ve seen by Woody Allen:

    “Ninety percent of life is just showing up.”

    So … show up!

    And to finish the rant, another great quote from a great poet:

    “From little eggs do mighty Zen Ducks grow!”

    • Dave says:


      You bring a tear to my eye Dude. Very inspirational. Thanks for the kind comments. He really gave you 2 sited for nothing?


      Man, we have some good people in there, there is no doubt about that. Glad you are enjoying it, it is going great guns actually and I know I am having a good time in there with you guys.

      • Bruno says:

        Yeap, I’ve offered him if he wanted some money for them, and he said it was alright 🙂

        Thanks a lot for setting up the forum Dave. I know it takes a lot of time to manage and moderate it all, but honestly, those were the best $10 dollars I’ve spent so far and the next ones will be the same.

        It’s not only about ‘learning’, but I also now have this community which have boosted my confidence that I know I’ll be in good hands if the worst comes to happen 🙂 And even if the worst does not come to happen, there are many valuable resources already out there.

        And I forgot to add yesterday this poem which might be a bit cliche, but I believe it suits the occasion:

        [quote]”Out of the night that covers me,
        Black as the pit from pole to pole,
        I thank whatever gods may be
        For my unconquerable soul.

        In the fell clutch of circumstance
        I have not winced nor cried aloud.
        Under the bludgeonings of chance
        My head is bloody, but unbowed.

        Beyond this place of wrath and tears
        Looms but the Horror of the shade,
        And yet the menace of the years
        Finds and shall find me unafraid.

        It matters not how strait the gate,
        How charged with punishments the scroll,
        I am the master of my fate:
        I am the captain of my soul.”[/quote]

        by William Ernest Henley

        • lostcylist says:

          Thanks for sharing Invictus. Hadn’t seen it in years. It fits our field perfectly.

          A real pick-me-up, ya know?

          Anyhow, as a newb to this field I often find myself wavering and freaking out with every Google update. I finally came up with a new slogan:

          “Bite me.”

          It lets me forget about the fears and keep doing the stuff that I know will make a difference. Chance (and Google) will do her best but I’ll be ready.

          Ride on.


  10. An says:

    I’m just waiting when they will allow me to spend money on my credit card again : >.

    Although it says in Paypal that I managed to set up the automatic payment of -10.00$ for Zen Duck.

    Nothing else happens after that. Should there be a follow-up e-mail for the account name/password?

    • An says:

      Oh, about fear! Yep! We’ve all been there!

      Dealing with this everyday, honestly : ).

      My understanding is that in most cases, fear is a pointless thing and just irrational. Logically you can rationalize why it is irrational, but the emotion doesn’t go away right that moment. Some internal mental shifts need to be found.

      Right into the land of esoteric self-help material here.

    • Dave says:


      If you paid up then Wifey will be setting you up today, no worries on that score. Expect an email this morning.

  11. Mark says:

    Dave, you can always do a cheezy WSO and charge $39.95! Then you will fear that everyone will be laughing at ZenDuck Pond.

  12. Rachel says:

    Dave – you are human! Fear is normal! But courage is doing it anyway.

    Thank you.

    • Dave says:


      Thank you. This game is a funny one. I never set out for anyone to know my name online. Not that it is anything but totally down to me.

  13. Terry says:

    “There is nothing to fear except fear itself!”

    Dude, you can never fail if you never give up! Bruno said it well. There can be no better instance of “BE THERE OR BE SQUARE”

    Its a good deal for the many people I see here commenting in the blog with a ton of questions. They simply need to learn stuff and they need to ask those questions to learn. That forum has some pretty knowledgeable “old hands” who have the answers to the questions that have answers to. And if they don’t, they find out.

    I know another cute saying that is apt for all those who said they would but didn’t… probably had no intention of doing so in any case but just said so to look like they were keen. It involves going forth, procreating and expiring… LMAO 😉

    • Dave says:


      😉 I kind of assumed it would happen. I am not blaming anyone though, not really in my nature. And to be honest when I got up this morning and saw how many threads and posts there were I kind of thought

      Bugger, I should have closed the doors at 50!

  14. Bea says:

    I’ll be in as soon as I can clear up a PayPal problem I’m having. Hopefully, today.

    And as an animal lover, I fear I’ll aggressively trounce people who run over squirrels. Mwa-ha-ha.

    • Dave says:


      Can you non-aggressively trounce people?

      • Bea says:

        As a mother, I have the power to shoot a vicious glance that can stun people. In fact, on one occasion my vicious glance missed the errant daughter, bounced off a wall, and hit a lamp, which of course fell and broke.

        Be afwaid, be vewy afwaid.

        I’m really trying to clear up my PayPal problem (have been all week)so I can join the Pond. If I can get it cleared, hopefully by this afternoon, Montreal time, will it be too late to join the Pond until Monday? I know you two like your weekends off.

        • Dave says:


          Wifey will check here mail in the morning so she should have you up and running then if you sort the problem out.

          And I am afwaid, very afwaid!

    • Steph says:

      Now I have a new fear – Bea! Don’t glare at me!

  15. Bea says:

    Great! If worse comes to worst, I’ll have my daughter or a friend put it on their PayPal account, if that’s okay with you.

    I’m ever-hopeful, and very determined.

  16. ChrisCD says:

    I fear adding $10/mo to already high bills. And I fear not adding $10/mo will cost me more.

    I fear failure, but don’t give up easily either.

    So we will sit by the pond and ponder a bit. And that seems pretty Zen like.

    • Dave says:


      You ponder all you want my friend.

      • ChrisCD says:

        The notice of a new comment says,

        “There is a new comment to Fear”.

        Yikes. :O)

        BTW, I also fear not being able to strike “gold” a second time. I have been successful with one site. I just fear not being able to repeat it. Which seems silly, but there you go. :O)

  17. Bea says:

    Hi Dave,

    Okay…my daughter has just used her PayPal account to purchase membership for me in the Pond. She’s not into IM, she’s a Level Designer.

    If you could email me I’ll give you her name and email address, and hopefully you or your wife can change it to mine. Otherwise, I’ll have to continue shooting those withering looks her way so she’ll forward the email p/w info to me…and the poor thing has already suffered so many of those stunning glances.

  18. Cinz says:

    I fear that I won’t break it past my current income. That Google will F me up. That Payoneer will stop supporting my country. And that one day, all the rabbits will be eaten or killed 🙁

    Guess what? I have overcome one fear i.e. Hi! Delurking going on here 🙂

  19. Fear for me is the next restaurant kitchen that is wanted too quickly with not enough information and a client who needs to open so that means it will all happen.Its only sleepless nights and growling at every one but what the hell it all is over in 8 weeks and every one tells me (the crumpled wreck) I TOLD YOU “WE” COULD DO IT.
    Only 38 weeks 6 days 22 hours etc to go.Must read the important stuff in the Pond No time to stop and smell the flowers(?????)

  20. Russell says:

    I followed the link to subscribe to the forum, but it took me to a page that was in Spanish and says the forum costs $10,000 to join.

    • Dave says:


      It says $10,00

      In Spain they use a comma instead of a full stop. I can’t change the settings because I live here. Honestly, it ain’t ten grand a month!

  21. Top CD Rates says:

    Alright. I’m in.

    Bank Man.

  22. Russell says:

    Thanks. That shows what I know.

  23. James Hussey says:

    I always fear one of the 2 baskets I place my eggs in will eventually crack:

    1) A major affiliate program I’m living off of, largely.
    2) My traffic from Google.

    Other than that, I fear I’ll never workout only because I fear sweat apparently. But barbells and dumbbells up tomorrow. Gotta start hefting some iron.

    As to the other two fears – diversifying both presently.

    I’m sure I have other fears (I always fear I won’t make a sale in this or that niche – I’m always wrong but still always surprised)…like I fear I’ll have to do laundry some day…but scrap that.

    I have a robe, you know.

    • Dave says:


      I hear you.

      Good step with the weights. I feel so much better and have more energy since I began again. Plus it is a good way to keep yourself motivated too, shows you can stick to routines. Hard when we can basically work whenever we feel like it.

  24. SueC says:

    OK I just jumped in too Dave. I am afraid of having been slacking all year and knowing what that means for the next few months. I got slapped after a Backlinks Philippines buy and it stopped me cold. One step forward, two steps back. All that and I have a new site that looks like could be killa, I can’t afford not to figure out how to get past the writers block!

    • Dave says:


      Glad to have you on-board. You are gonna be amazed at some of the content in there, honestly, it has blown me away.

      We will get you out of that writers block no problemo.

  25. Rahul says:

    My fears,
    When i will make $500 from adsense in one month.
    When i will leave my job.
    What if my site hacked.
    What if my network gets penatly
    When i will run my seo company.
    When i will have two offices.
    When i will start big player real authority sites projects.
    When i will entering in affiliate marketing.
    What if my all projects fail one by one.

  26. SteveWyman says:

    I Fear, that ill subscribe, your wifey will become rich and youll lie back in the Sun living the life of Riley 🙂

    • Dave says:


      If only. You won’t believe how much work it is reading every single post on the forum and checking everyone is behaving. I have less time than ever before.